"The media has brainwashed our kids to believe there is
no future left for them" Author
asked a group of teenage guys to tell me everything they
saw in their mind about the future. They quickly filled
two sheets of paper - they are well informed. Everything
on the paper was negative!
No wonder our teenagers often live without hope and
purpose to their lives.
How to find your purpose and direction in life
This method is really helpful to define where your heart
is drawn to for a purpose for your life. Probably more
suited to older teens and adults. You need to be totally
honest and actually write the answers down on a piece of
paper. Better to do this alone because then you will be
free from the expectations of other people. There are no
right or wrong answers - it is your life for you to live
with a unique purpose that God planned for you before He
even created the world. You are not here on earth to
merely "fill in time until you die". Neither are you here
for another person to live their life and dreams through
you! You need to set goals for your life and move
gradually towards achieving those goals. This little test
should help you do that!
- Write down a list of everything that you have in your
mind that needs doing in your life at the present time.
Include everything you should have done and everything
you are intending to do in the future. Basically
everything in your mind that jumps in and out at
different times. e.g. do math assignment, buy a new
skateboard, visit cousins, repair bike tire, etc. The
list will usually be quite long. This is the stuff your
brain is carrying around at the moment.
- Place an "A" next to the items that are really
important and critical, a "B" next to the items that are
less important and could wait a little while and a "C"
next to the items that are not really important and can
wait or it doesn't really matter if they don't get done
at all. This helps you see the items in your life that
you need to be spending your most effort on (the "A"
items). Completing these important "A" items gives you a
sense of achievement and you feel good about yourself. If
you put all your effort into the less important items,
you tend to feel like your not getting anywhere and
- Next make a list of all the things you would like to
have achieved in the next five years. Place the
priorities "A", "B" and "C" against those items again.
The list will most likely be smaller this time.
- Next make a list of all the things you would like to
have achieved by the end of your life, assuming you will
live to a ripe old age. Place the priorities "A", "B" and
"C" against those items again.
- Assume now you have only six months left to live.
Write a list of the things you would like to have
achieved in these final six months. Place the priorities
"A", "B" and "C" against those items again. The list is
getting shorter now!
- Finally, what would you like people to remember you
for at your funeral as they look back over your life? If
you do all this test sincerely, this last step will
usually reflect where your heart and your passion lies -
the area of your life where you want to channel your
energy and time into. For me, this last step revealed my
passion to help young guys get on top of life. Because my
purpose was clarified with this little test, I was able
to concentrate on focusing my energies into my "life
purpose" and not waste my time and effort on pursuits
that will go no-where for my life. You are looking at
part of that process on this website.
It is interesting to note that generally your life
purpose and life passion don't always show up in the
first list, or if it does, it is clouded by all the other
busy activity of everyday life. It is important to set
goals for your life and then choose activities that
progress towards those goals. Lives with purpose won't
happen unless you look past the present "too much to do
and no time to do it" syndrome and actually aim at
Try talking to some adults (who you trust
to tell you the truth) and ask them to tell you the
strengths and talents they see in your life. This might
be really hard for some guys because it's often hard to
see anything good in your own life and you feel like you
will be setting yourself up for a load of bad stuff if
you ask that sort of question.
Other people can see strengths and talents in you that
you probably haven't considered before. Everyone has
"gifts" or talents from God that we don't recognize in
ourselves because they are so much a natural part of our
being that we think that everyone must be like it.
These talents are another clue to the purpose for your
life. God gives these talents and expects you to use them
to serve other people! You can use them anyway you want -
either selfishly or to serve and bless others. It is your
choice. Guess which way God wants? Guess which way you
will get the most satisfaction? By serving others with
your gift you will find it a real buzz and you will most
likely be at least some way walking in your "life
"In all your ways acknowledge Him (admit the reality and
truth of God having power) and He will direct your paths"
Bible - Proverbs 3:6
Does this "purpose" direct all your life?
No. Generally it acts as an overall theme to your life.
For my life, my passion is to help young guys, but that
only happens during my free time. I work as an Electrical
Engineer and I really like the work and seem to have a
"gift" for doing it intuitively, but I don't want to be
remembered for my Engineering work at my funeral!
Engineering provides good money so I can live well and
travel overseas to work in orphanages and spend time
working with young guys - it is a way I use to achieve my
dream. Other people do it differently and their dream
takes up more of their life.
You need a balance in all aspects of your life. Your
dream should not push out everything else. You need
friends that don't share your dream so that you will stay
in balance. You need a wife or girlfriend who can share
your life's dream and work alongside you in it. What
harmony would there be having a wife who has no interest
in your main purpose for being here on earth? You need
recreation time and time for yourself. You need to make
sure you don't "burn out" in chasing your dream - you are
in this for your lifetime so take it steady.
Being able to "do" your purpose
It may take some courage to change things to step out and
head towards what you see as your purpose in life. Other
people have expectations of you but you need to be able
to direct your own life, especially if you are an adult.
It is always good to ask for advice from people you
trust. They can even help you achieve your goals.
Your life won't suddenly be filled totally with this new
purpose - you still have to eat and pay the bills and you
still have responsibilities. The way to look at this is
that your life now has a theme and a goal for you to head
towards and make decisions based on this "purpose" theme.
You need to know what your basic rights are to help you
in dealing with other people on the path to achieving
- You have the right to be treated with respect
- You have the right to express your own feelings and
- You have the right to be listened to and taken
- You have the right to set your own priorities
- You have the right to say NO without feeling guilty
- You have the right to ask for what you want
- You have the right to get what you pay for
- You have the right to ask for information from
- You have the right to make mistakes
- You have the right to choose not to assert yourself
All this leads to you being able to express who you
really are without dominating, humiliating or degrading
the other person. In dealing with other people you need
to be practiced at these messages:
- This is what I think....
- This is what I feel....
- This is how I see the situation....
It is called "being able to assert yourself". When two
people can properly assert the real them in this way, the
relationship is much better because you have a much
clearer picture of who the other person really is.
The ultimate act of "asserting" yourself is to be able to
honestly say to another person "I love you" and not
expect anything in return!
The Ultimate in Purpose
You are not an accident. You were
deliberately placed here on earth by a loving God. You
are fearfully and wonderfully made in God's image and He
loves you with an everlasting love! The ultimate in
purpose is to choose to love God!
The Bible makes it clear that we all have a "God-shaped"
spiritual vacuum inside of us that we will never be
totally satisfied unless we deliberately bring God into
our lives to fill that vacant space. Then we can return
the love to God that He has for us. That is where we find
our ultimate fulfillment, satisfaction and purpose.
Jesus gave up everything to open the way to have you
close to Him! Mel Gibson's movie "The Passion of the
Christ" graphically depicts what Jesus chose to suffer in
order to open the way for you and God to be reconciled.
Jesus was God on earth in human form and He could have
opted out at anytime. The reason he had to suffer this
way was that someone had to pay the necessary "blood
price" for my sins and your sins. That price is now paid,
so we are free to go to heaven simply by accepting that
"blood payment" that Jesus chose to make on our behalf.
It takes action on your part to find your purpose in life
and then slot into that purpose. Everyone at some time
will question the big picture "Why am I here?". Find your
purpose and your life will take on a whole new dimension.
There will be a reason to get up in the morning - despite
Your purpose is to:
- Love God
- Fulfill the plan He has for our life
The payoff is:
- Great satisfaction
- Seeing other lives changed for the better through you
- A life without regrets
- Eternal life in heaven
- Internal peace and joy despite the circumstances
- Hearing God say "Well done" when it's all over