"God is the creator of sex. He set our human drives in
motion, not to torture men and women, but to bring them
enjoyment and fulfillment" (8)
Every boy will have his sexual nature awakened in him,
often without warning. It will become like a raging fire
which God intends him to channel into ultimate expression
and ultimate satisfaction with one person in marriage.
The highest level of this sex-drive for a boy's whole
lifetime will be between 18 and 20 years of age!
Is your sex-drive something Christian boys should just
The Bible says that you are "awesomely and wonderfully
made." Seven times in the creation account, God looks at
what He made and proclaims, "It is good!" The Bible says
that your body is "the temple of the Holy Spirit." God
made you the sexual young man you are - and He says it's
awesome and wonderful! "It is good!" God doesn't see your
sexuality as sinful or bad - and nor should you! Your
sexuality - like everything about you - is a gift from
God, meant to bless you. Your sexuality isn't something
you should deny or ignore (as if you can), it's something
to be thankful for.
What God intends for your sex-drive
obviously had many purposes in mind when he deliberately
created our sexual capabilities, from reproduction, to
pleasure, to unique union. Like all things He created, it
is all very good.
As with many of His wonderful gifts to humankind, it is
only when we distort it and misuse it that it becomes
twisted and ugly.
Sex in marriage is beautiful, enriching and fulfilling
when practiced as He directed. (8)
- God created our sexual desire - it in itself is not
sinful or dirty.
- Ready or not, the desire will awaken in a boy during
his teenage years and will be with him for the rest of
- Once the sexual desire is awakened in a boy (usually
through a wet dream) he is on a steep learning curve. He
must learn how this sexual nature functions, what
triggers it off, how to control it and how it affects the
rest of his being.
- The sexual drive was created to bring ecstatic (truly
great) pleasure to a man and woman in the bounds of
marriage. Any other setting (involving another person)
produces guilt and robs you of the original intention of
- The sexual union is a spiritual phenomenon where "the
two become one flesh" God intended the act of marriage to
be the most sublime (greatest) experience two people
could share [together] on earth (8)
For a lot of boys (including Christians) the awakening of
the sex drive produces so many problems that they lose
sight of the original purpose that God had in mind. Many
start to think they are the biggest sinner around and
that 'they would be better off without this new dimension
to their lives'.
Monogamous (one partner), heterosexual marriage under God
was the divine intention; one man and one woman forming
an inseparable union and living in dependence on God
compare it to mountain climbers: Sometimes when mountain
climbers are climbing a mountain, they become discouraged
when they can't see the peak because of mist and fog.
They begin to focus on where they are at with all its
problems instead of focusing on the future joy and sense
of accomplishment at making it to the top.
So you, the teenager need to keep your eyes on the
ultimate reason that you have this gift from God of your
sex drive. The worry and concerns of the "now" will fade
away and disappear, just like the fog and the mist that
were blocking the view to the ultimate destination - the
Mountain climbers sometimes have to work extremely hard
to reach their destination. The thing that keeps them
going is that they keep the 'big picture' in mind and
that helps to bring obstacles back to a manageable size.
If the 'big picture' becomes distracted to a small
'here-and-now' picture, the motive to pursue the ultimate
goal is lost. Keep the 'big picture' (God's purpose for
your sexuality) in mind!